This will pass

✨ I hope you can find magic this Monday however small 😘✨

Illustration by @emilycoxhead

Image description: words in black handwriting that reads: β€œIt’s okay to feel flat you can’t ALWAYS bounce back CONVERSATIONS can be TOUGH doing the RIGHT thing isn’t always enough . We can’t have HAPPINESS without a little pain hard times will pass again & again- emily coxhead.” These words are on a illustrated lined piece of paper. This paper is on a blue background with a illustration of a rainbow in the center. Illustration is by @emilycoxhead

Honey I’m Home!!

Dear Reader,

It has been a real long while since I have posted anything on here and I have missed blogging, I really have. I guess it that good ol’ excuse of life getting in the way. But when thinking of it, it’s actually me getting in the way of myself…I mean it’s me who make plans and then break than again. So on behalf of me, that part of me that is the putter offer, that part of me that has made a big, brighter, endless list forΒ tomorrow, I am sorry.

While I have be absent in here I must confess, I have cheated on you with other social media, namely Instagram. I have ever more ripped off the seal that was keeping shut tight the lid on my disability and my thoughts around this, as well as going a bit ninja (as my bestie would say) and have started to speak about things that do not sit right with me- the stereotype around disability and how stigma NEEDS to end. Now.

Now, don’t worry I am still full of rainbow fluffiness happiness and that will not change, but in order for this rainbow fluffiness happiness to continue things need to be aired, views need to be discussed and challenged and we need to stop being so darn polite and just say if something is bothering us- like can people just treat me as another human being and not treating me as if I am the disability? I still think in today’s society a lot needs to be done for it to be a place that is fully inclusive and rather than, or only, accepting differences but embracing differences too.

On here, on this blog was were my love affair with writing begin, and without sounding like Joe Goldberg from You (a Netflix series, surrounding a guy obsessed with, and a therefore β€œwould do anything for” love-and this really does mean ANYTHING!), where I found you. It was through writing I found a way to express what I found difficult to say aloud. Reader this felt utterly freeing and found that the Queen of vulnerability, Brene Brown was right, vulnerability does pave the pathway for connection. Sharing parts of my story, expressing my thoughts on my disability, only allowed me to get to know others that have gone through similar things.

I guess I wanted to remind you that letting people see who you are is important. Why? Because it means that you don’t have to continue to hide and make up this idea of someone who is not you. Because you can start to see who you are and feel your power. Because by doing so you will feel less lonely; in this world of social media and by sharing your experiences there will be people reading/hearing your words and will resonate with them and maybe reach out. At the back of this they will also feel less alone in the world, finally finding someone with a similar story to them.

I want to ask you not to be afraid to using your voice-your voice is your power. It is your weapon that no one can destroy. Use it well dear Reader. I am right behind you.

I intent to show my face on here a little more this year. I hope I will see you here too, hoping we can thrive together.

Until next time

All my love XX

It’s a double whammy!

🌈 It’s a Happy double whammy todayπŸ™ŒπŸ» Happy Magic Monday and also Happy Sticker Day 🌈

I love me some fun stickers to spruce up my calendar… it’s adds a inspiration for the month (as any rainbow unicorn hearts or little positive words would πŸ’“)πŸ’– Sooo get fun when your organising it might takes the edge of things that feel a little weighty, especially at the start of the year!

Also my writing is a little different than most but that’s ok. I can understand what I have wrote and that what matters, right? If you have a similar writing character, don’t let it stop you from creating your writing artwork πŸ˜˜πŸŒˆπŸ’–

Reframing Disability

✨🌈 And don’t be made to think differently.

Happy Magic Monday My Fabulous Ones🌈✨

Image description: words on a yellow-green cut out piece of paper that reads β€œA disability is something that you have, it is not you.” The paper is placed on a pink and green background

Stop Hiding!!

🌈 Happy Magic Monday my Fabulous Ones🌈

There’s a saying never be afraid who you are. I for one am a huge advocate of this. There was a time when I would ask β€œ Can you not get my wheelchair in the photo?” But really what is there to hide? Why should I hide apart of myself? Why should I fear the behaviours of others?

Ignoring apart of myself will only lead to misery, to fixate on a unhealthy desire to be someone that I’m not destined to be and really who I don’t want to be. The thing is this hiding thing came really from a place of wanting rather the needing πŸ€¦πŸ»β€β™€οΈ and who honestly wants to hide?-unless you eat the last sweet in the packet and you feel all eyes glare at you πŸ‘€πŸ™ˆ

So for the last few years I have dropped this want to hide and have allowed my wheels to be seen …and they do also say give credit whet credit is due and my chariot really does need this after all where she have taken me!

Let us not be afraid of who we are, let’s try to acknowledge all parts of ourselves . If we just try and not let those naysayers pollute our perception and force us to believe that we β€œshould” be a certain way. Would we really want to be around these people?

Show of them beautiful peacock feathers and don’t be afraid in doing this … and just a heads up make sure no one is around as you devour the last sweet πŸ™ƒπŸŒˆπŸ’œπŸ˜˜πŸ™ŒπŸ»

[Image description: Rebecca is sitting in her wheelchair. Rebecca is smiling at the camera. Behind her is a grass area ]

Self-belief

🌈✨ Happy Magic Monday My Fabulous Ones ✨🌈

This is your Monday reminder, via the wonderful @stacieswift, to always try and go after what you believe✨✨ It is not a easy thing to do at times, but it is always worth it! Believe in your lovely self πŸ˜˜πŸ’–πŸŒˆ

[Image description: the word β€˜HAVE’ is printed in white in the centre of the image. Underneath is the word β€˜COURAGE β€˜ written more bigger and bolder. Underneath reads italic words in brackets β€˜EVEN IF YOU FEEL A BIT WOBBLY AT FIRST’. The background of this illustration is pink. This illustration is by @stacieswift]

Stay in your own lane

🌈✨ Hhhaaappy Magic Monday MyFabulous Ones ✨🌈

Live life how you want and don’t be held back from doing thisπŸ’–πŸŒˆ No one is living your life but YOU! Free yourself child πŸ˜˜πŸ™ŒπŸ»πŸŒˆπŸ’–

This wonderful illustration is by @helloitskayley πŸ’œ

Honour Connection

🌈🌟 Happy Magic Monday my Fabulous Ones 🌟🌈

To be able to connect to others is something I treasure and something over the last few years has meant even more to meπŸ’– Its important to tell those closest to you that you love them πŸ’–

Let’s kick this week off by sharing a little loveπŸ™ŒπŸ»πŸ’–πŸ™ŒπŸ»

Tag in the comments below those humans who just light up your heart πŸ˜˜πŸŒˆπŸŒŸπŸ’œ

Honour Connection

🌈🌟 Happy Magic Monday my Fabulous Ones 🌟🌈

To be able to connect to others is something I treasure and something over the last few years has meant even more to meπŸ’– Its important to tell those closest to you that you love them πŸ’–

Let’s kick this week off by sharing a little loveπŸ™ŒπŸ»πŸ’–πŸ™ŒπŸ»

Tag in the comments below those humans who just light up your heart πŸ˜˜πŸŒˆπŸŒŸπŸ’œ

Love Yourself

🌈✨🌈 Happy Magic Monday my Fabulous Ones 🌈✨🌈 It’s important to just be who we are and not throw the light away from ourselves- embrace it!πŸ’– I love the fact that no one has my wobbly walk ! And it’s not up for negotiation πŸ’

What do you love about you? Feel free to share, if you want to of course! Let’s kick this week off with a bit of self lovingπŸ’œπŸŒˆπŸ˜˜